Accept the Grace of Reconciliation

The Sacrament of Reconciliation is ALWAYS a beautiful thing.  I had a friend recently who hadn’t been to confession in about 40 years.  I’m sure you know someone like that…maybe yourself?  He decided in his heart that it was time to go, but he feared being judged or chastised.  I assured him that God would be thrilled to see him return to grace.

So, he corralled his fears and trepidation and showed up at the confessional one Saturday.  Rather than scolding him for his absence, the priest asked “Why now?  What brought you back to the Sacrament?”  We all have our reasons why we stay away and we all have our reasons why we return.  If it’s been awhile, why not now?  Why not this Lent?  God is patiently waiting for you to kneel before Him and say “Bless me, Father, for I have sinned.”

Our parish is hosting a Communal Advent Penance Service on Saturday, December 16 at 8:00 a.m.  As a community, we will share a short prayer service, an examination of conscience, and then each penitent will have the opportunity to meet privately with a confessor.  (About 10 priests will be on hand to hear your confession.)

If you would rather go to confession in the traditional manner, we will also offer confessions on Saturdays December 9 or 23 at 8:00 a.m.

Your other option is to attend a Communal Penance Service at a neighboring parish:

Wednesday, Dec 6 @ 7:00 p.m. at St. Patrick, Carlsbad

Sunday, Dec 10 @ 4:00 p.m. at St. Thomas More, Oceanside

Tuesday, Dec 13 @ 7:00 p.m. at St. Elizabeth Seton, La Costa

Thursday, Dec 14 @ 7:00 p.m. at Nativity, Rancho Santa Fe

Friday, Dec 15 @ 1:00 p.m. at Mission San Luis Rey

Friday, Dec 15 @ 7:00 p.m. at Mission San Luis Rey

Saturday, Dec 16 @ 8:00 a.m. at St. Mary Star of the Sea, Oceanside

Monday, Dec 18 @ 6:30 p.m. in Spanish at St. Mark’s, San Marcos

Tuesday, Dec 19 @ 12:00 noon at St. Francis, Vista

Tuesday, Dec 19 @ 6:30 p.m. at St.. Francis, Vista

Wednesday, Dec 20 @ 6:30 p.m. at St. Mark, San Marcos

Thursday, Dec 21 @ 6:00 p.m. at St. Peter, Fallbrook



I AM THE LORD YOUR GOD: YOU SHALL NOT HAVE STRANGE GODS BEFORE ME.  Have I treated people, events or things as more important than God?

YOU SHALL NOT TAKE THE NAME OF THE LORD YOUR GOD IN VAIN.  Have my words, actively or passively, put down God, the Church, or people?

REMEMBER TO KEEP HOLY THE LORD’S DAY.  Do I go to Mass every Sunday and on Holy Days of Obligation?  Do I avoid, when possible, work that impedes worship to God, joy for the Lord’s Day, and proper relaxation of mind and body?  Do I look for ways to spend time with family or in service on Sunday?

 HONOR YOUR FATHER AND YOUR MOTHER.  Do I show my parents due respect?  Do I seek to maintain good communication with my parents where possible?  Do I criticize them for lacking skills I think they should have?

YOU SHALL NOT KILL.  Have I harmed another through physical, verbal or emotional means, including gossip or manipulation of any kind?

YOU SHALL NOT COMMIT ADULTERY.  Have I respected the physical and sexual dignity of others and of myself?

YOU SHALL NOT STEAL.  Have I taken or wasted time or resources that belonged to another?

YOU SHALL NOT BEAR FALSE WITNESS AGAINST YOUR NEIGHBOR.  Have I gossiped, told lies, or embellished stories at the expense of others?

YOU SHALL NOT COVET YOUR NEIGHBOR’S SPOUSE.  Have I honored my spouse with my full affection and exclusive love?

YOU SHALL NOT COVET YOUR NEIGHBOR’S GOODS.  Am I content with my own means and needs, or do I compare myself to others unnecessarily?


Wishing you a blessed and holy Advent season.




St. Joseph Sunday Missals Now Available

This complete Saint Joseph 2018 American Edition Sunday Missal provides each Sunday’s Prayers, Readings, and Responses in a continuous style for easy use and understanding. Also contained in this book are the masses for Holydays from the beginning of Advent through the Solemnity of Our Lord Jesus Christ, King of the Universe.

Stop by the parish office to purchase your copy for $5 each.

What is Your “Just One Thing “?

Autumn is the season for harvesting and sharing the fruits of our labors. This week’s scriptures use images of the harvest, family life, pregnancy, and investment to describe the abundant harvest in the reign of God. We discover that sharing the gifts we have been given brings eternal rewards for everyone.

In the Gospel parable a master entrusts his possessions to three servants before going on a journey. Each is given some talents. What they do with those talents determines what the master will do with them when he returns. How about us? What are we doing with our talents? How will our Master treat us when he returns?

We are all part of God’s Plan.  Every one of us has a gift that God has given us to share.  Let’s all take that first step together.  While it may be a little intimidating to jump off the edge into the deep end of the pool, it would be easy to put just your toes in first.

Think about it.  What ONE THING can you do to honor God while benefitting our faith community?

Do you sew?  Do you bake?  Can you make a main dish or pan of lasagna for a special function?

Are you a painter who could do touch-up painting in our facilities to keep them looking fresh and clean?

Do you have a trade to share?  Are you a landscaper who could offer 2 hours a week to keep up the grounds of the parish?

Are you available to help with small Honey-Do jobs?

Are you able to pick up a fellow parishioner who needs a ride to Mass?

Are you available to set up tables and chairs on either a periodic or regular basis?

Extra hands and hearts are welcome in our Youth Faith Formation program.  Are you available?

Are you able to make sandwiches one day a week and be part of our Feed My People Ministry?

Are you comfortable with money?  Would you be willing to serve on the Collection Counting Team once a week?

Will you visit the sick of our parish at their homes or in the hospital?


While it is very important in our faith life to attend Mass each week, it is also critical to our faith journey to be engaged with our parish.   Are you willing to be part of the Liturgical Ministries once a month?

Can you share a welcoming smile with visitors and “regulars” at Sunday Mass (be a Greeter)?

Can you proclaim the Word of God during Mass as a Lector?

Will you consider helping people find a seat, taking up the collection, being an Usher?

Do you play an instrument (including voice)?  Are you willing to be part of one of our choirs?  (We have special occasion choirs if you’re not available on a regular basis.)

Are you good with young children?  Would you be willing to be a catechist once a month for the Children’s Ministry during the 10 a.m. Mass?


Please prayerfully consider putting that first toe in the water.  For more information, call Debbie at 760.722.1688 or email her at



Amazon Smile – A New Way to Support St. Mary’s!

Do you shop on Amazon? We sure do! Did you know you can support St. Mary’s Parish with every purchase you make? Amazon donates a portion of every sale, at no cost to you, to any non-profit organization that you designate. CLICK HERE to set St. Mary, Star of the Sea Parish as your preferred charity/non-profit. Then, the next time you shop, start at and know that (at no cost to you) .5% of your purchase is going to support St. Mary’s Parish! What could be easier?

Collection for National Needs

The weekend of November 18-19 has been designated for the 2017 Collection for National Needs. Special envelopes will be available for the collection, which supports the Black and Indian Missions, the Catholic Home Missions, the Catholic Communication Campaign, the Catholic Campaign  for Human Development, and the Catholic University of America. Bring your donation to Mass or donate online!

Cub Scouts Christmas Tree Sales

Our St. Mary, Star of the Sea Cub Scout Pack is selling Christmas tree and wreath as part of a fundraiser! These beautiful, fresh cut Christmas trees and handmade wreaths, swags and garland are available for pre-sale through November 14th.

These trees are amazing and come directly from a farm in Oregon. The trees are so fresh that sometimes they are delivered with snow still on the branches! These trees are different than what you find at the tree lots in town or the store. They are nursery quality, premium trees, hand selected, cut, loaded and delivered within a few days and not sitting in storage for weeks before purchase.

Already have an artificial tree, cannot pick up the tree, or you live out of the area? No worries, you can help generic viagra online support us and a military family! The Trees for Troops program gives a donated tree to a military family and we keep a portion for our fundraising efforts, it is a win-win for everyone. There are even wreaths and swag available for purchase should you not want a tree.

If you plan to purchase a tree this year, please consider purchasing one to support our Scouts. Not only will you receive an awesome tree for your family to gather this Christmas, you are supporting our programs.

Please view the attached flyer for information on trees, wreaths, and purchase details. Thank you!!