Be The Rainbow

For much of the summer, wild fires raged in the Northwest, consuming much of Montana and Washington.

Just last month, the Southeastern portion of the U.S. and the islands were devastated by hurricanes.

Close on the heels of the hurricanes was a massive earthquake in Mexico.

Two weeks ago, a lone shooter gunned down over 50 innocent people at a country music festival in Las Vegas.

As I write this, California is on fire. Populated areas are being threatened, including homes and businesses.

Close to home, the Anaheim Hills Fire is ravaging through Orange County.  Farther north, several counties in Northern California are being consumed by fire.

Even though some of these events took place thousands of miles away, I would guess that you know someone who was personally affected.

My best friend knows a young man that was gunned down in Las Vegas.  She will attend his funeral this weekend.

I had a short trip planned to visit my sister in Santa Rosa this last few days (Oct 11-14).  Her city is being leveled by a fire that is not only minimally confined.   Hotels, restaurants, department stores, expensive homes, mobile homes, a fire station, vineyards…nothing is safe.

Businesses that are not threatened cannot open because their employees are unable to get to work.  Roads are closed, some employees have lost everything, some have been evacuated from their homes and don’t have the essentials to be ready for work.

I have been visiting my sister in Santa Rosa for the last 45 years, and am very familiar with the city and the area.  You might have read that an Applebee’s burned to the ground.  I ate there during my last visit.  It becomes real when it’s more than a headline.

 

SO WHAT DOES ALL THIS MEAN TO US AS PEOPLE OF FAITH?

God does not stop bad things from happening.  Don’t get mad, don’t blame God.

It is up to each of us to be the light in someone else’s life and the light in our own.  We are called to be the Good Samaritan.

Think of the heroes in Las Vegas who stayed by a stranger’s side while they took their last breath.  They were able to offer nothing by themselves.

I think about the emergency instruction on the airlines.  Put the oxygen mask on yourself before helping others.

You are not physically able to hold someone’s hand in Florida, or Mexico, or Las Vegas, or Santa Rosa.  But you are able to spiritually wrap your arms around them.  Pray for those who have lost their homes, everything they own, even their lives.  Even those who are waiting out a tragedy, now knowing the outcome, are mentally tortured.  Pray for them to be strong.  Pray for the heroes—first responders and the common man.

Be the rainbow in the storm.

 

 

 

 

 

How Do our Catholic Values & Principles Relate to Stewardship?

How do our Catholic values and principles relate to stewardship?  Perhaps it would be easier to see how we live our faith through stewardship by imagining stewardship as a pyramid composed of several basic building blocks, each representing one of several key aspects.  This month’s let’s reflect on two of them: the principles of human dignity and respect for human life.

Every human being is created in the image of God and redeemed by Jesus Christ, and therefore is invaluable and worthy of respect.  This is the bedrock of Catholic Social Teaching.  What does this mean for each of us?  How do we treat ourselves and others, including people who look different from us?  How does this principle influence our interactions in both the real world and on social media?

The Catholic Church proclaims that human life, from conception to natural death, is sacred and that the dignity of the human person is the foundation of a moral vision for society.  Yet, in our society, human life is under direct attack from abortion and euthanasia, and the value of human life is threatened by cloning, embyonic stem cell research, and the death penalty.  Catholic teaching also calls on us to work to avoid war, seeking ways to resolve problems through peaceful means.  The intentional targeting of civilians in war or through terrorist attack is always wrong.

What can we do to demonstrate our respect for human life?

It all begins with self-respect.  If we do not respect ourselves, it will be more difficult for us to respect anyone else.   Respecting ourselves means recognizing our own worth and value as a human being.

How do I go about respecting myself?  Here are some ways:  Be honest with  yourself and others, and show respect for others’ views.  Value education, recognizing that knowledge is a key component of self-respect.  Don’t neglect exercise or nutrition; in order to be our best, we must feel our best.  Never forget that financial responsibility is a cornerstone of independence.  Demonstrate good manners; your proper conduct will make you feel good about yourself and earn you the respect of others.  Accept responsibility for your own actions; this includes formally apologizing for wrongdoing and striving to make amends.  Learn to distinguish between family members and friends who are good influences and others who are not; emulate the good.  Set important goals and make plans for reaching them; through each one, you will gain strength to challenge yourself a little more, and your self-respect will grow.

So, what does this have to do with being a disciple of Jesus Christ?  As members of the Church, Jesus calls us to be disciples, and this call has astonishing implications for us.  Mature disciples make a conscious decision to follow Jesus, no matter what the cost.

This most definitely includes recognizing the dignity and sanctity of every human life, from our own to those most different from us.  Christian disciples experience conversion—life-shaping changes of mind and heart—and commit their very selves to the Lord, striving to more fully life out these principles every day.

Christian stewards respond in a particular way to the call to be a disciple. Stewardship has the power to shape and mold our understanding of our lives and the way in which we live.  Jesus’ disciples and Christian stewards recognize God as the origin of life, giver of freedom, and source of all things.  We are grateful for the gifts we have received and are eager to use them to show our love for God and for one another.  We look to the life and teaching of Jesus for guidance in living as Christian Stewards.

 Thank you to Manny Aguilar, Diocesan Director for Stewardship for this article that was published in the recent edition of the Southern Cross.

 

A Letter from Our Pastor

Dear Parishioners,

From time to time, I would like to use this page to express the vision (short term and long term) that I have for our parish.

Since my arrival in July, I have been able to see what our bishops of San Diego had been talking about when they mentioned the many challenges I would face when arriving here and which I have been trying to prioritize with God’s help.

My first priority was to get to know you: my parishioners, my staff, other parish groups and their families, your customs and needs.

There are three dimensions that a Pastor must develop:  the one of Christ as Priest, the Sanctification of the people through the sacraments, and Christ as prophet.  May the Word of the Lord come to all through Evangelization and Catechesis and that you may receive Christ the King who governs through the proper guidelines and norms of our Catholic Church.

During the month of August, I started to reorganize these three dimensions, the first one is the one to govern.  I am slowly giving direction to my staff on where and how we will move on.

It is difficult at this time to have a clear plan but I believe that with good communication and order we will have a good start.

While the parish offices were recently remodeled for a more inviting and efficient use of space, I made a few additional modifications to the space to allow a more adequate office for the pastoral works of the pastor.   I will be very accessible to staff and parishioners alike.

During these coming months I will continue reorganizing the parish offices and staff to better meet our pastoral needs.

While preparing for this assignment, I studied the financial statements of the parish.  It worried me that the expenses exceed the income.  I am not saying that our parishioners are not generous, because I know you are.  With the help of the Finance Council, I am committed to reorganize our budget so that it will be in good accordance to our income.

I am also looking forward to a new school year as well as another year for our religious education program.

Later this month we will celebrate the 90th year of the dedication of our church and I would like to restore some things to their original place.

I will start by moving the wooden statues of Our Lady and Sacred Heart of Jesus to their original places in the side altars.   At this moment they are somewhat hidden behind our baptismal font.

We will be moving the statue of Majogorie and the tapestry of the Baptism of the Lord to another place in the church.  I will also be removing the black arch that is in front of the Sanctuary.  If for some reason removing it might damage the wall, we will paint it the same color as the wall.

I am also working with the Altar Society to buy a statue of the Holy Family with the intention of consecrating each one of our parish families during the new liturgical year.  It will be similar in design to main statues in the sanctuary area.  It will  be placed on the east side wall near the piano.

Finally, if someone has an objection with any of the changes that I have been sharing with you, I would like to hear from you.  Please send me an email (fatherg.stmarys@gmail.com) or call the parish office at your convenience.

Thank you to each and every one of you for all the kind attention you’ve had with me since I became pastor of St. Mary’s Parish  and please continue praying so that I may guide you to a safe place and you may always have the peace of our God.

In Christ, Father Gerardo Fernandez “Father G”

 

THE GRAND PRIZE

We talk about being on a Faith Journey.  That may sometimes sound vague and abstract.  Where exactly is this journey taking us?  What is our final destination?  What’s the point?

You may have a different answer than I, but to me, my faith journey is leading me to an eternity in Heaven with the God who knows me and loves me.

Along the way, if done well and with intention, my journey will allow me to become the best version of myself that I can possibly be.  That’s who I hope to be when I present myself on that final day.

To reach that end, I need to put a great amount of conscious effort in coming to know myself, others, and of course, The Lord.

I’m pretty confident that you are striving for the same goal—the same Grand Prize—that I am.  We are called to have faith that God exists, that He knows and loves each and every one of us and that He wants us to spend all of eternity in His presence.    In every thing that you do, Keep Your Eye on the Prize!

 

Mary Chapin Carpenter, a folk singer, has a beautiful song she calls “My Heaven”.  When I listen to her song, I am filled with joy to think that my eternity could be so beautiful.  And, with the faith I have, I know without doubt that this beautiful version of heaven will come nowhere close to the reality I will experience.

Nothing shatters, nothing breaks, nothing hurts and nothing aches.

We’ve got ourselves one heck of a place—in my heaven.

Looking down at the world below: a bunch of whining, fighting schmos.

Up here we’ve got none of those—in my heaven.

There’s pools and lakes and hills and mountains, music, art and lighted fountains.

Who needs bucks here?; no one’s counting—in my heaven.

No one works, we all just play.  You can pick the weather every day.

If you change your mind, that’s okay—in my heaven.

Grandma’s up here, Grandpa too in a condo with to-die-for views.

There’s presidents and movie stars.  Just come as you are.

No one’s lost and no one’s missing.  No more parting, just hugs and kissing.

And all these stars are just for wishing—in my heaven.

There’s little white lights everywhere, your childhood dog in dad’s old chair,

And more memories than my heart can hold when Eva’s singing “Fields of Gold”.

There’s neighbors, thieves and long lost lovers, villains, poets, kings and mothers.

Up here we forgive each other—in my heaven.

For every soul that’s down there waiting, holding on, still hesitating,

We say a prayer of levitating—in my heaven.

You can look back on your life and lot, but it can’t matter what you’re not.

By the time you’re here, we’re all we’ve got—in my heaven.

STEWARDSHIP SAINT FOR JULY

 

Saint James (the Greater), Apostle Saint James the Greater was one of the apostles closest to Jesus; the others being his younger brother, Saint John the Evangelist and Saint Peter. He is not to be confused with James the Lesser, another one of the twelve apostles, or with James from the Acts of the Apostles who was the author of the Letter of James and the leader of the Jerusalem community.

By the Gospels’ accounts, James, born in Galilee, was an ordinary fisherman who showed no signs of being readily able to grasp the genius of his master’s life and ministry. He and his brother were even considered “hotheads” as Jesus gave them the nickname “Sons of Thunder” (Mark 3:17).

On one occasion, when a Samaritan village refused hospitality to Jesus, they urged him to call down fire from heaven to destroy it, which prompted a stern rebuke from their teacher (Luke 9:51-56).

On another occasion, with uncomprehending ambition, James and his brother made a daring request to sit at Jesus’ left and right hands, places of honor in the glory of the kingdom of God. Jesus warns them of the suffering and hardship they will eventually endure in Jesus’ name (Mk 10:35-40).

What makes this ordinary, impulsive man a stewardship saint, however, is that he allowed Jesus’ call to discipleship to cut through his ordinary, everyday life. His response was instant, complete and single-minded.

James and John were working on their boats with their father, Zebedee, when Jesus calls them to follow him. “And at once, leaving the boat and their father, they follow him” (Mt 4:22).

It was a call to share in Jesus’ mission, a call that allowed for no other priority.

James’ response in faith models what the response of each Christian disciple is to be to the Gospel of Jesus Christ.

James is also privileged to be one of the apostles chosen by Jesus to witness his most dramatic signs of power: his Transfiguration and the raising to life of Jairus’ daughter.

James was the first of the Twelve to suffer martyrdom. He was beheaded during the persecution of Herod Agrippa I between the years 42 and 44 (Acts 12: 1-3).

Later traditions hold that James actually preached in Spain or that at least his body was transferred from Jerusalem to Compestela in Spain, which, in any case became a major pilgrimage site in the Middle Ages. Saint James the Greater is the patron saint of Spain, Chile, Guatemala and Nicaragua. He is also the patron saint of pilgrims, pharmacists, laborers and those suffering from arthritis. His feast is celebrated on July 25.

I hope you are inspired by the story of Saint James the Greater and can follow his example of following Jesus’ call to discipleship.  It’s who we are when we call ourselves Christians.  We need to mindfully act like one.

 

THANKS BE TO GOD!

 

I’d like you to meet Neal Finnegan McGrane.  He was delivered on Sunday night to my daughter Rachel, her husband Colin, loving grandparents and lots of excited extended family.  Little Neal is the first child of this generation in our family.

Rachel and Colin had a very specific birth plan.  But Neal did not arrive according to plan.  They had all their prenatal appointments with a midwifery in Orange County and planned a very natural and organic birth experience.   Things didn’t go as intended.  After 30 hours of “excruciating back labor”, Rachel asked to forego her original plan and have labor induced.  Eventually, the baby was delivered by caesarean section.

Through it all, they kept an attitude of gratitude, accepting that it is all God’s plan.  Not theirs.  They confidently knew that they had done everything in their power to make it happen.  The midwifery did everything in their power as well.

Several days later, I expressed to my daughter that she was lucky to have several days in the hospital to rest, get pampered, get used to new parenthood, get advice, etc.  She couldn’t have agreed more.

It is my experience that when you humbly let go and accept God’s will, you are rewarded.

EVERY DAY I am reminded that God wants nothing but the best for us.  AND…He knows exactly what we need.    Our only job is to gratefully accept His guidance and do the best we can with all the gifts He has given us.

This has truly been a blessing for my family and I thank you for keeping my family in your prayers.  And…you can call me Nana B.

 

 

Last week, I shared with you a Mid-year Reassessment.   We all tend to make some kind of resolution or commitment at the beginning of the year and then get less focused over time.  It’s human nature.

Can you believe that summer is about half over?  I heard today that one local school is starting on August 14!  Yikes!

School children are asked every year to reaffirm their commitment to education.   They are asked to come back to school ready to hit the ground running.  What I like best is that they must be ready not only to recommit, but to knuckle down and be ready to tackle an even more challenging year than the last.

That is how we grow.  In education, in maturity, in our faith life.  We must recommit on a regular basis and then challenge ourselves to tackle even more.

So, whether you are getting youngsters ready to start a new school year, you’re not yet at the place in your life, or you’re past all that, I challenge you to think about what you can do to recommit yourself for this next phase of the year.  I will close as I do so often:  Ask God for His guidance.  Follow it.

 

 

 

MID-YEAR REASSESSMENT

We all like to make resolutions, having a grand plan for ourselves.  If you’re like me (and most of society), you make them with the very best of intentions.  Sometimes they don’t work out exactly as we had planned.  Early this year, I printed an article entitled “A New Year, New Beginnings for the Christian Steward”.  Maybe you remember reading it. Maybe you even vowed to put a few of the suggestions into action.  I invite you to take a few minutes to reread the suggestions. You will not be graded on your responses.  We’re almost halfway through the year. Now’s as good a time as any to begin.

MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN YOUR PARISH COMMUNITY:  Believe it or not, your parish community can use your talents.  Offering your talents to your faith community is one of the most effective ways to feel useful and connected to others,  and it is a potentially life-changing resolution.

RESIST OVERWORK:  There is a pressure to produce, to meet goals, be successful.  But activities that lead us to overwork, constant fatigue and worry do not give glory to God.   What God calls us to do we can do well.  Be mindful that life requires balance, down time, and letting go of unrealistic goals.

NURTURE FRIENDSHIPS:  Our friends are those with whom we choose to spend our time, with whom we vacation, to whom we go for advice.  Friends are gifts from God who give us a greater appreciation of God’s love for us.  Friends need our time and love.

GIVE MORE:  Good stewards realize that everything they have is entrusted to them as gift to be shared.  There is no better place to begin than sharing with the community that gathers around the Lord’s table at Mass.  Consider what you are giving to your parish (weekly collection /designated gifts) and local diocese (Annual Catholic Appeal) and commit to an even greater contribution as circumstances allow.

LIVE MORE SIMPLY:  We cannot find fulfillment in possessions.  They add nothing to our self-worth.  Jesus blessed the “poor in spirit’ in his Sermon on the Mount; and St. Francis of Assisi urged us to live with only what was necessary, for that is how we begin to find God.

GET HEALTHY:  Are you accelerating your own decline into premature old age, owing to poor diet and lack of physical activity?  Be a good steward of your body.  Plan a complete overhaul of your diet and exercise habits.  Schedule an annual physical.

PRACTICE GRATITUDE: Cultivating a grateful heart is the hallmark of a Christian steward. Every day, express thankfulness to the Lord and to others.  Seeing the good in your life will allow you to keep your heart compassionate and loving.

ENCOUNTER THE LORD EACH DAY:  Find time to be with the Lord each day, whether it be for an hour or ten minutes.  Have a conversation with the Lord.  Give your joys and worries to Him.  Allow God’s love to transform you.  Our regular encounters will keep our eyes and ears open to the presence of Christ in our midst.  Be present to others—there is much celebration and mourning, joy and sorrow in people’s lives.  What a blessing it is to be able to share those times and not let others experience them alone.  The gift of your presence is much more valuable than you probably realize.

DON’T GIVE UP:  People give up their resolutions because of perfectionism and unrealistic expectations.  So take it slowly, be kind to yourself, and keep trying.  Resist the urge to throw up your hands and quit.  You succeed through small, manageable changes over time.

TURN TO THE LORD:  Add some planned daily prayer time to your busy schedule.  Start asking God’s blessing before meals.  Start praying the rosary once a week.  Take time for God.  Ask the Lord for guidance, strength, and perseverance in achieving your resolutions.  In his letter to the Philippians, St. Paul writes “I can do everything through Him who gives me strength”.  (Phil 4:13)  If God is the center of your resolutions, they have a better chance for success.  With God, all things are possible!

 

 

GO AND TEACH ALL NATIONS

 

Today is Pentecost Sunday.  Today we remember Jesus’ challenge to Go and Teach All Nations – to Evangelize.  But how do we do that?

As with all aspects of your life experience, you can teach by your example.  Others will see you living your faith—acting in a Christian manner to those you encounter.  I’m not just talking about your friends and family, I’m also referring to the person who is rude to you, the person who is asking for assistance, the person who talks too much and drives you crazy.  I know it has been overused, but let me refer back to “WWJD?”

You can evangelize by living your faith openly.  Go to Mass on a regular basis.  Spend time with the Lord in  Eucharistic Adoration. Become a member of our Visitors for Christ or Legion of Mary and bring Catholic/parish materials to homes in a neighborhood.  You can take a copy of the Southern Cross (our Diocesan newspaper) and share it with a friend.

You can be a catechist; a teacher or helper in the Faith Formation (CCD) program.   Or, you could assist in the RCIA process.

Do you remember how you became a Catholic?  Were you baptized as an infant or young child and only remember the experience from the pictures in the photo album?   Many of our practicing Catholics have made  the choice to become a Catholic as an  adult.   Maybe even the person sitting beside you in the pew is a convert…

But to become a Catholic as an adult, a person must enter through the RCIA, which stands for Rite of Christian Initiation of Adults.  It includes several stages marked by study, prayer and rites at Mass. Participants in the RCIA are known as catechumens. They undergo a process of conversion as they study the Gospel, profess faith in Jesus and the Catholic Church, and receive the sacraments of baptism, confirmation and Holy Eucharist.

Prior to formally beginning the RCIA process, an individual comes to some knowledge of Jesus Christ, considers his or her relationship with Jesus Christ and is usually attracted in some way to the Catholic Church.   This time period is known as the Period of Evangelization and Precatechumenate. For some people, this process involves a long period of searching; for others, it is a shorter time.

After conversation with an advisor or spiritual guide, the person, known as an “inquirer,” may decide to continue the process and seek acceptance into the Order of Catechumens. The local parish assembly affirms his or her wish to become a baptized member of our church and the inquirer then becomes a “catechumen.”

The period of the catechumenate can last for as long as several years or for a much shorter time. It depends on how the person is growing in faith, what questions and obstacles they encounter along the way, and how God leads them on this faith journey. During this time the catechumens consider what God is saying to them in the Scriptures, what changes in their life they want to make to respond to God’s inspiration, and what membership in the Catholic Church involves. Catechumens have a special connection to the Church and even though they are not yet baptized, they also have certain rights in the Church.

Every step of the way, someone from our parish walks along with the person in the RCIA process.  The team includes teachers and sponsors.  There are also ancillary roles, such as those helping with hospitality on a recurring basis or for specific events.

Each year our parish welcomes 10-20 adults into the Catholic Church (either through Baptism or Profession of Faith).   It takes many dedicated parishioners to facilitate and assist in this beautiful process.   Anyone who has ever been an RCIA sponsor has felt doubly blessed by walking the path and being exposed to the truths of our faith in a fresh light.

I ask you to prayerfully consider some level of involved in the RCIA.  You may wish to discuss the possibilities with Patty Mann.  I’ll be praying for you.

TAKE A LONG VIEW

I stumbled across the reflection on this page and found great inspiration it.  It was written by Bishop Ken Untener of Saginaw in memory of Oscar Romero (1917–1980) for his Beatification two years ago.

Oscar Romero was born to a very poor El Salvadoran family in 1917, received only a third grade education, but was later accepted into a seminary.   He returned to his home country, serving first as a parish priest and eventually the Archbishop of San Salvador.

Archbishop Romero turned the facilities at the cathedral into a space for people to come for relief, food and medical assistance.  He also began hearing the stories of countless Salvadorans who told him how their family members were tortured and killed, or just disappeared.  He quickly began to speak out on behalf of the poor and powerless.  His weekly sermons, broadcast throughout El Salvador by radio, cited human rights violations by the government.  His life was threatened on several occasions, to which he responded: “I have frequently been threatened with death. I must say that, as a Christian, I do not believe in death, but in the resurrection. If they kill me, I shall rise again in the Salvadoran people.”

On March 24, 1980, as he was celebrating Mass in the chapel of the Carmelite Sisters’ hospital for cancer patients, where he lived, he was shot to death.  Pope Francis quoted him: “We must all be willing to die for our faith even if the Lord does not grant us this honor.”

At this time, I challenge you to read the reflection.  I think the line that speaks to me the most is: “We cannot do everything, and there is a sense of liberation in realizing this.  This enables us to do something, and to do it very well.”    I have to remind myself of this on a regular basis. I can give much greater glory to God by offering a few things done really well instead of being known as the person who does everything.    Read the reflection a second time, find the passage that speaks to take, and take it to prayer, asking God for guidance and direction.

 

A STEP ALONG THE WAY

It helps now and then to step back and take a long view.

The Kingdom is not only beyond our efforts,

it is beyond our vision.

 

We accomplish in our lifetime only a fraction

of the magnificent enterprise that is God’s work.

Nothing we do is complete, which is another way

of saying that the kingdom always lies beyond us.

No statement says all that could be said.

No prayer fully expresses our faith.

No confession brings perfection,

no pastoral visit brings wholeness.

No program accomplishes the Church’s mission.

No set of goals and objectives includes everything.

 

This is what we are about.

We plant the seeds that one day will grow.

We water the seeds already planted

knowing that they hold future promise.

We lay foundations that will need further development.

We provide yeast that produces effects

far beyond our capabilities.

 

We cannot do everything,

and there is a sense of liberation in realizing this.

This enables us to do something, and to do it very well.

It may be incomplete, but it is a beginning,

a step along the way,

an opportunity for the Lord’s grace to enter and do the rest.

We may never see the end results,

but that is the difference between the master builder

and the worker.

 

We are workers, not master builders,

ministers, not messiahs.

We are prophets of a future not our own.

 

 

Written by Bishop Ken Untener of Saginaw in memory of Oscar Romero (1917–1980)

 

Happy Mothers Day

For Mothers’ Day, I would like to share with you a poem that I wrote for my mom on Mothers’ Day 1988.   I had a four-year old daughter and a two-year old son and I had the revelation that I understood my mother so much more now that I was a mother myself.

A few weeks ago I wrote about setting a good example because people are watching.  Most importantly, your children are watching.  And whether they are two, or twenty, or forty…trust me, they are watching and listening.

I tried very consciously to be a good parent.  I know I did a lot of things “right” and I know I failed at others.

But I can tell you that, with my children finally having “grown up” (thirty-one and thirty-two), I often hear my words come back to me.  The advice that I gave them or the example I gave sat dormant for awhile, but never left them. Now, as mature adults, they can draw on the prior exposure.

We all try to do something special for our moms on Mothers’ Day.  I challenge you to do something special more often.  A call, a hug, a card, a prayer.  If you are still lucky enough that your mom is still living, cherish every moment you have with her.  Your children will see your example and it will come back to bless you as well.

 

Gentle memories of you

            fill my thoughts and my heart.

I remember

            warm vanilla pudding, homemade pies,

            and recipes being passed on from generations gone by.

I remember

            coming home from school, bursting with urgent news

            …and always finding you there, ready to listen.

I remember

            learning to sew and to cook

            from a patient master.

I remember

            summer mornings

            with fresh-cut peaches for breakfast.

 

By your example

I learned

            right from wrong

            and values to last a lifetime.

I learned

            how to be a real lady

            and at the same time how to take care of myself.

I learned

            that it’s okay to be an individual

            – not always part of the crowd.

I learned

            self-confidence;

            that I could achieve whatever I desired in life.

I remember

            loving you very much.

 

I was my mother’s child, but now I’m my child’s mother

And I love you in ways I never could before.