Feed My People

Thank you for your generosity to our community in need of food.

SPARKLETTS WATER has generously offered us a special pricing on purchasing water bottles for the daily lunches. We need two parishioners to sponsor the pro- gram at $25/month. Each $25 will supply 168 water bottles/month. That’s about half of what we use in a month’s time. This is a true savings to the ministry.

Please call Kim at 760.271.8759 to inquire about any details you may need in order to donate.

Altar Server Training

An altar server is a public minister who assists the priest in helping to lead the people of God gracefully and reverently in prayer at Mass. This ministry requires a young person who has received the Sacraments of Baptism, First Reconciliation and First Communion. All Altar Servers must attend formal training, be willing to attend follow-up trainings, be scheduled two times a month, and have a parent or guardian who will correspond with the Liturgy Director on a monthly basis concerning the Minister Schedule.

The next Altar Server Training will be held in two sessions at our Parish Church on Thursday, September 28th at 6:00 PM and Thursday, October 5th at 6:00 PM. Please contact Amy Nelson at the Parish Office for more information. You may either call at 760-722-1688 or email at stmarysministers@hotmail.com.

We Are All Part of Our Parish History

Wow!  I had an interesting week.  Sometimes life runs in themes.  Two weekends ago I was inundated (in a GOOD way) with family.  This past week was all about history and its significance in the present.

Next month, on October 22nd, Bishop Robert McElroy will visit our parish to officially install Father Gerardo as our new pastor.

In planning for the event, the Diocese provided me with several choices of dates.   October 22nd jumped off the page at me because that is the date we celebrate our parish anniversary!    And this year, it is ninety years to the date that Most Rev. John J. Cantwell, Bishop of Los Angeles and San Diego, came  to dedicate our new church building.! (San Diego wasn’t a diocese until 1937.)  Is that cool or what?

Then I looked up Father Gerardo’s ordination date.  On Saturday of that weekend (October 21st), he will celebrate the 26th anniversary of his ordination!  What a special weekend for our pastor!

So, because we are planning something a little special for  the event, we visited the Oceanside Chamber of Commerce and looked at historical photos of our church and school.

It was very inspiring to see pictures and read newspaper articles that documented how important we are to the City of Oceanside.    I truly believe that we are still very important and have a presence and an impact on the faithful of the City.

Alarmingly absent from the inventory are pictures of our parish school which opened in September 1951.

If anyone has ANY historic photos from earlier years that include the church or our school, please share them with me.  I will in turn share them with the Oceanside Historical Society for all to appreciate.

Later last week I visited a long time parishioner, Vera Macias who was celebrating her birthday.  I couldn’t let the day pass without letting her know that the parish still remembers her and prays for her.  She was such a vital part of our parish life for so many years.   She is finely woven into the fabric of what makes St. Mary’s a unique and special place.

We all contribute to the special nature of our parish community.   We are all part of the Living History of St. Mary Star of the Sea.  How do YOU want to be remembered?


I would like to share a human interest story this weekend because it has to do with Hurricane Irma.    As you know, Jens and Karen (my son and daughter-in-law) arrived in Norfolk, VA on Thursday, Sept. 7.  They moved into their new apartment on Friday, Sept. 8.   They only moved with them the items that would fit in their car.  They purchased an inflatable mattress upon arrival in the new city.  OK.  Let’s review:  clothes, toiletries, a TV, and an inflatable mattress.

Karen’s dad is a Marine and their family had relocated to Miami just two months ago.  Oh no!  When told to evacuate, they came up to Virginia to stay with their daughter and son-in-law in an empty apartment!

The scene that I imagine makes me want to cry—in a good way.  I can see them—in the face of adversity—having a blast.  They probably are sitting on mattresses playing board games or watching movies.  Karen and her mom are shopping for furniture and domestic items.   They are making family memories that will last a lifetime!    Thank you, God,  for the Silver Lining!








By the time you read this, my son will have completed nine months of schooling for his Navy rating.   Last weekend, he flew home to San Diego to reunite with his wife and then his family.  On Labor Day, he started the drive across the country to his first station aboard the destroyer USS Arleigh Burke at Norfolk, VA.

I spent Labor Day weekend (well, 6 days total) immerged in family.   They allowed me to be MOM.  I baked cookies, cooked dinners, changed sheets, and couldn’t have been happier.    (Many of you understand exactly what I’m talking about.)

My daughter, son-in-law and new grandchild spent quite a bit of time with us as well.  They even allowed me to babysit my grandson while “the kids” went out for dinner. (I just can’t get enough of little Neal Finnegan!)

My extended family (my sister, niece and her boyfriend) flew down from Santa Rosa and my other two nieces drove down from Los Angeles.

I am a Serious Introvert, so I was drained by the commotion AND at the same time I was being energized because my “babies” were home with me.

Families are a funny thing.  No matter how great your family might be, every family is dysfunctional to some extent.    My family all loves, respects, and even likes each other, but there is always going to be family dynamics going on.  Am I right?

This is much like the Family of Man, your Neighborhood Family,  or your Faith Community Family.

Every person in the familial group is a unique individual with gifts, talents, strengths, and weaknesses to bring to the table.

God purposely created every one of us differently.  It’s hard to believe that there are so many combinations, and yet I see it every day.

Our Stewardship theme is:

  • Getting to Know Each Other
  • Getting to Know Ourselves
  • Getting to Know the Lord

There is no time like the present to take that challenge seriously.  It doesn’t happen automatically.  You have to create the situations or environments in your life that are conducive to the growth opportunities.

Take a few minutes after morning Mass and walk down to the Parish Center for coffee and a donut.  Say hello to someone you haven’t met before.

Volunteer to make sandwiches for the homeless and chat over the task at hand.

Read books that provide spiritual reflection or sign up for a retreat.  The Abbey and the Mission have on-going opportunities.

Spend an hour a week in Eucharistic Adoration and get to know the Lord in an intimate way.

Make it happen.  You’re the only one who can!






Worldwide Marriage Encounter starts with the love you have for your spouse and helps you to build, expand, and deepen that relationship. We would like to invite all married couples to sign up for the Sept 22-24 weekend at the Courtyard Marriott in Rancho Bernardo.

For more information or to sign up, visit the website at www.wwme-sandiego.org.

Birth Choice Needs Volunteers and Staff

Do you love the Lord? Are you passionate about the unborn? Do you have a heart for women who suffer as a result of abortion? There are several paid and volunteer openings in the San Marcos and Oceanside Offices. If the Lord is calling you to serve in this ministry, call 760.621.3414 x 11.

Birth Choice